How to Change Limiting Beliefs

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How to change limiting beliefs

Inner beliefs are perceptions that we have of ourselves that have been programmed into our brains since we were children.

A young person aged between 0-7 years old has a mind like a sponge. The mind’s whole purpose is to soak up the information from all around us. It’s how we are programmed, how our brains work and how we learn. That information can come from everywhere in our lives, everything we see, everything we do and everything that is said to us. All of our experiences, circumstances and the people around us – family, friends, parents, teachers and others shape our beliefs. So does society, television, books, games… the list can go on and on! You get the idea.

Forming Our Beliefs

As we form our beliefs from positive statements we hear, positive information and feedback we receive, we create positive inner beliefs which help us to achieve success. However, negativity also influences our beliefs, negative feedback and negative comments can create negative beliefs which hold us back and limit our success. These negative or limiting beliefs become the things we believe about ourselves. Whilst these beliefs are not necessarily true facts about ourselves, they are things we we believe to be true.

For example if someone says “that’s stupid” or “that’s not enough” then we often assume that statement is about us, especially at a young age. It might have been said about an action or piece of work, but at a young age, there is no ability to differentiate, so it is assumed that the comment is about ourselves.

Then we may start to form a belief about ourselves that we are stupid. That young person may begin to believe “I am stupid”. This then becomes a self-limiting belief which gets in the way of us achieving our goals, whether we realise it is happening or not!

How Belief Affects Us

When baby elephants are trained not to roam, one leg is tied to a wooden post that is planted in the ground. In the beginning, the baby elephant will try to break free but eventually learns that it cannot break the rope. The baby elephant creates a self-limiting belief that it cannot break free. When the elephant grows, it could easily break the rope, but because of the negative belief, the elephant doesn’t even try.

This is the same thing that happens to us. We learn these beliefs and if we don’t change them, they become who we are. In order to break free, we have to change those negative beliefs to positive ones. As long as you believe that you cannot accomplish something, you won’t accomplish it. Your inner beliefs define who you are, but inner beliefs can be changed.

When we are able to let go of that belief about ourselves, we are able to see things differently, approach situations differently and respond differently.

If you ever say, “I can’t…” then that is a limiting belief. It is not true, but if it is your belief than it becomes true.

“I can’t go for that promotion because…” As long as this is your belief, then you won’t get the promotion.

“I can’t save any money because…” If you continue to believe this, then you won’t ever save a penny.

Identifying Beliefs

Stop to listen to the words you use and the messages you say to yourself or others around you. What reasons are you giving for not being able to do something? Here’s the things – at the end of the day, these reasons, they’re actually excuses. Oooh I know that might sound harsh. These excuses are going to be based on your limiting beliefs. If you want to make changes and keep moving forward and onwards then I’m sorry, we’re going to have to look at the tough stuff. So listen to your words. Write them down if necessary. Then take it up a level to find an overall belief.

The Four Major Beliefs

These limiting beliefs generally relate to these four major beliefs.

1. I’m not good enough
2. I’m not worthy
3. I’m not deserving
4. I can’t / I’m not able to

How to Change Limiting Beliefs

When we work on our limiting beliefs, things in our everyday life start to change.

1. Identify the belief

Listen to the words you are saying and the excuses you are making.

2. Accept the belief

Recognise and accept that this is your belief. Write it down and own it.

3. Challenge the belief

Question it, challenge it. Is it really, really true? Is it true NOW? What if this really just does not apply or if you got it wrong when you were little?

4. Look for evidence

Start to look for evidence that this belief is not true. Maybe if it’s I’m not good enough, get out all your certificates of training or your pay slips or look at your family. Does it really show that belief?

5.Create a new belief

Write this down too. Next to each negative belief write a new positive belief.

For example:
Limiting Belief: I cannot speak in front of people; I am too shy.
New Belief: I am a good speaker and have information that others will want to hear.

Every day look at your list of new positive beliefs and say them to yourself – out loud!

Say them to yourself whenever you are feeling a lack of confidence. You may even want to list them on a note card to carry around with you so they are available throughout the day. If you keep saying them, they will eventually become a part of you. You will have changed your inner beliefs to positive ones.

What success or progress could you achieve when you stop limiting yourself through your beliefs?  I’d love you to let me know in the comments or send me an email.

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2 Responses to How to Change Limiting Beliefs

  1. Mimoza Brianna Madhi 16th June 2017 at 3:36 pm #

    Great article,

    It’s very logical and simple. All your writing is (to appeal to the masses I suppose).
    If applied correctly could be an absolute life changer.

    It all begins within.

    People just need to switch off/devices/negative situations/noise long enough to REFLECT and devise a plan. …. that’s all it takes. Switch off and Focus!!

    • Emma Langton
      Emma Langton 25th June 2017 at 4:18 pm #

      Hi Mimoza

      Thank you! I do like to keep things simple – I usually say straightforward. Yes everything begins inside us. We need to make the decision, the choice to change. xx

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