I blogged last week about Why I Don’t Make New Year’s Resolutions and realised that it might have been a bit mean for those of you that have made New Year’s resolutions or set goals for 2017! So I thought it would only be fair to talk to you a little about how to help you with those resolutions and achieve your goals.
How to Put Some Oomph into Your New Year’s Resolutions
This 8 step technique can apply to goals, anytime, anywhere, so not necessarily just to New Year’s Resolutions. I work a lot with people in large and small businesses, and with entrepreneurs so some of these methods will be familiar, however it’s the added oomph in the final step that underpins the success of this goal setting technique.
1. Get Clear on Your Goals
Ensure you know what it is that you really want to achieve when you set a gal or new resolution. What do you want to get out of it? When you achieve this goal what will it look like, feel like? How will you know if you’ve got there?
Be really specific.
In businesses in particular there are different ways of doing this, and lots of goal setting models you can use, for example:
goals are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relative, Timely (or Targeted)
stands for Goal, Reality, Options, Way Forward – this model is used a lot in coaching.
More information on these models are available with a quick internet search. Whatever method you use, make your resolution or goal really specific.
2. Write it Down
If you choose to use one of the above methods (or any other method) write down your goals and plans. Break it down in steps and stages or achievable chunks. Even if it’s not a business related goal, perhaps one about diet and healthy eating, then plan out your meals. If you want to go to the gym more or do more exercise, plan it into your week, plan the when, where, how.
3. Be Accountable
Tell people what you are going to do, perhaps by putting information on your calendar at home or telling people at work. However, being accountable also mean you take responsibility for what goes on. Being accountable means that you’re highlighting what you are going to do, and it’s really down to you to make it happen (regardless of what happens around you). It’s a great way to keep yourself in check.
4. Take Action
Please don’t sit back and wait for things to happen! If I sat back and waited for clients to come to me, then I wouldn’t be writing this blog! It’s all part of me taking action. You cannot sit back and hope that everything will fall into place. So those specific things you said you were going to do, you actually have to do them (even if you feel uncomfortable or it starts out being difficult!)
Go back and review your plans periodically. That might be every week or however frequently you need it. Review the meals, if that’s what you’re doing, and ask yourself did that meal work or was it too much of a rush? If it’s going to the gym, maybe the time is not right or you tried to go after a really busy day or a big meeting and it just wasn’t working for you. That’s OK. It doesn’t have to mean it’s all over! Review, tweak, change, adjust to make sure your plans continue to work for you.
Visualise how you want your goal to be. If you’re on a losing weight/healthy eating plan, then maybe visualise how that’s going to be for you. How do you want to look and feel?
If you’re on work successes, what do you want that success look like? Where do you want to be sitting, what do you want to be doing, which people do you want to talk to, what do you want to be talking about and who do you want to be working with?
Really think about the details. If you’re not a person who ‘sees’ images, then just go with how you are, what the feeling is that you want, how will your clothes feel? How will you feel when you get out of bed on a morning? How will you talk? Think of your body language.
Thank about the images that are doable for you like what will your diary look like, what’s in your bank account (when you’ve got that pay rise / promotion / more clients). What does your desk look like when you’re organised?
7. Affirm Your Mindset
Mindset is so important. Some people say mindset accounts for about 85% of successes! That’s a big chunk! So do work on your mindset too. The visualisation will help but in addition you are going to create your own affirmations. Create a phrase or two about how you want to think, how you want to be, what it is that you are going have or do. Ensure you use present tense for these phrases and affirmations like “I am”, rather than having them as “I will” or “My aim is”.
Here’s a couple of examples, but the internet is full of these affirmations if you need some more inspiration to set the right ones for you.
I feel energised and positive each and every day.
I am strong, confident and successful in my work and my home life.
8. Add the Oomph
As I said earlier, take action. Each and every day, get this into your routine. Whether that’s in the shower, brushing your teeth, as you park up at work, visualise your image or feelings, and repeat for affirmations – in the present tense. Say these out loud because it adds a multi-sensory affect so that you think, speak and hear these phrases.
Ensure you step into that place, that statement, those feelings of where you want to be. Step into it as if you’re already there. See it as already happening, say those words with conviction. Then you really feel that you are achieving those goals.
Set aside the time to do a little of this each and every day.
Yes it takes a bit of effort and planning but it can really make a difference when it comes to achieving those goals, dreams and New Year’s resolutions!